I say blame whoever installed the wheels the last time around. Happened to me twice recently. Once with the Golf, whose service included a brake inspection, and the dealer overtorqued - I could not budge them at tire swap time. I brought all four mounted tires to the dealer and they swapped them for free, torquing with a proper torque wrench this time.
Then last year with the Audi - same thing, they removed the wheels during service and overtorqued. 3 came off, the last one the required torque was beyond what the lock nut could take and it stripped. Dealer managed to remove it and gave me a new set of Audi oem wheel locks. All free.
Just to complete the dealership picture - had Honda swap the wheels on the van as it was a no-charge item with the required service. Had my steelies, oem wheel covers and bag of special lug nuts with hubcap rings on them right in the back of the van. Told them too. Got home, noticed a missing wheel cover - they used the alloy nuts knowing very well that their own products have bolted-on wheel covers for more than a decade now
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Popped the 3 remaining covers off, drove back to Honda and had them re-do the nuts and supply a correct new oem 2012 Odyssey LX wheel cover - all free.
Needless to say I swap tires myself, use a torque wrench and I have zero issues if nobody else touches the wheels.